We fear to be mediocre. We want to be special. This is a very ordinary fear and an ordinary desire.
But people who are different often wish they were more ordinary. They see their difference as a flaw. It is lonely. They wish they did not stand out, that they could share more with other people.
What we really want is to be recognized as excellent at something that is ordinary.
This is probably an obvious statement for most people. For somebody like me, raised with a faith in the value of non-conformity, it is tough to accept.